As important as it is for parents to encourage, love and support our children, it is just as important that children learn to create this within themselves. It is very empowering to create a positive belief in yourself from within, and it is much harder for anyone to take that from you. When we are children, we are learning behaviours and wiring our brain, this is why affirmations are so effective with children. They will carry these valuable affirmations with them throughout life.
We all develop our belief systems about ourselves and the world around us from our environment, such as our family and friends, role models, television, magazines and advertising. Some are valuable, some can be damaging.
It is important that we learn to take control of our belief systems, and the younger that we can learn this, the easier it is. This can be done just by affirming the positive beliefs that we would like to grow with. Negative beliefs can impact our lives greatly, and can be hard to shift as we grow older.
Affirmations are a powerful and holistic way of building a positive mind, and happier children. Nurturing their authentic self, and helping them to enjoy the magic of childhood.
Affirmations are ~ ‘to affirm to one’s self ‘. Positive words that are absorbed by the mind to create your belief system. Once the affirmations are learnt, they work by coming to mind when that belief is challenged. If your affirmation is ‘I am wonderful, just the way I am’, and you are told you are… stupid. The affirmation will come to mind to remind you of your belief. You will then be thinking.” I’m not stupid, I am wonderful! ” Without a positive belief, you may take on the one just given to you…believing that you are stupid. The more an affirmation is repeated, the stronger it becomes.
What we think about ourselves, is how we develop. If we feel we are worthless, we will behave like we are worthless. If we believe that we are special and loved, we will behave like we are special and loved.
This is why affirmations are so important for children. When we are children we are developing foundations on which to grow. Once we have matured, it is very hard to change those foundations.
Affirmations also provide us with the opportunity to learn to look at ourselves in the mirror.(the most effective way to say affirmations) This again learnt as a child, is an easier process. Many of us find it quite confronting to look at our-selves in the eyes, let alone say “I love you”, as we do. Why? Why is it hard for us to be kind to ourselves? This leads to the next benefit if affirmations. They teach us positive self-talk, to speak to ourselves with kindness. As we grow, it seems to become so easy to criticise ourselves, literally harming our own self confidence. For children to learn positive self-talk from a young age, helps prevent self-criticism, as a strong and positive belief system has already been created from within.
With bullying such a huge issue that most children are faced with, self-confidence is the very thing that will help them through these times. Keeping a positive mind is essential. This can be very difficult when children are experiencing bullying. By developing positive mental pathways at a young age, children will be more resilient, and self- assured, coping much better than if they had a low self- esteem. Another way to see the issues of bullying reduce, is to consider that those who bully others, generally do so because they are trying to make themselves feel better, more confident. If all children are using affirmations to encourage a kind and positive self-image, then possibly there will be no need for any children to bully others. Perhaps this is something that could be introduced into schools, with just 2 minutes to unite the class with a positive affirmation each day.
Creating an inner confidence as children can shape our whole life. Having confidence effects every aspect of our life, our ability to learn and participate at school, socially, creatively, our relationships, achieving our goals and dreams, and most importantly our standards. With lower self-confidence, we often lower our standards, or ‘settle’ for what we belief is achievable. Every aspect of our life is effected by our self-confidence.
Affirmations are an effective way to build self-confidence. Just a few positive words spoken each day to ourselves can, amazingly, make such a difference to our whole body. Our mind, our heart and physically. There is much research on how the heart and mind are wired to communicate, and also how a happy and positive mind can improve your overall health.
Make today the day that you try affirmations with your children. Helping them to shine with confidence as the unique individuals that they are. You may like to take a look at Nurture Cards ~ affirmation cards for children. They are a wonderful box of 40 cards that are designed with warm colourful drawings that children can relate to and engage with, promoting a positive mind.